Monday, May 19, 2008
Dating in 2008
Dating in 2008 is way different then I remember dating being. I find that texting with someone I just met can cause all kinds of crazy miscommunication. Simple phrases like "see you soon" can either be taken as a positive yes I want to see you again or if read differently, a negative I don't want to commit to seeing you again so "soon" is all you get. And how about that Internet dating, anyone else trying eHarmony?
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I had a blind date last week. You know, a friend of a friend had a friend kind of thing. This was my very first venture after the break up of my 23 year marriage. I felt four major emotions.
1. Anger at my X for putting me in this situation.
2. Terror plain and simple.
3. Guilt, at feeling like I was cheating on my wife i.e. STBX
4. Excitement at trying something and meeting someone new.
Totally understand what you mean. When I first started dating again I would announce that I was divorced, like they should know before we went any further. I am sure it was a huge turn off and a red flag that I was not ready to be dating again.
I had determined that I wasn't going to discuss the divorce, per several of my female friends at work. However, the woman I met already knew that I was getting divorced and she asked me several questions about it.
At first I thought about just saying, well things just didn't work out. First that was not really true so I don't really want to start out lying to this person. Secondly, anyone with any sense at all would know that after 23 years of marriage, things rarely just don't work out. I tried not to unnecessarily trash with STBX, but did answer honestly. Guess it didn't scare her too much since she said she would like to see me again sometime.
It a hard thing not to get into. Keep us posted on how the second date goes!
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